ROCKY MOUNTAIN CHRISTIAN SINGLES MIXER

Dr. Aquila Answers a Question on Providence in Dating

2007-07-13T10:39:00.000-06:00

Q. I have been receiving what appears to be conflicting counsel about my responsibility in seeking a spouse. Some have told me that as a woman I should just trust God's providence to bring the right man into my life. Others have said that I need to apply some effort in the process. Can you help me sort this out?

A. Let's begin with the bottom line: In his providence, God does plan all things, which also includes the means by which his plans will be fulfilled. For example, God designed us with a need for food; we cannot live without it. And he has promised to provide for his people. Yet, God does not plow the fields and sow the seeds to produce the food for us; he gives us the means to do all that. Even when God provided manna in the wilderness, the people still had to go and collect it. We have to have faith that God will provide and at the same time we have to exert effort consistent with God’s design.

If a farmer is lazy and does not take care of his field or vineyard, he cannot expect a fruitful harvest. In fact, here is an unflattering comment from Proverbs about a lazy farmer:

I went past the field of the sluggard, past the vineyard of the man who lacks judgment; thorns had come up everywhere, the ground was covered with weeds, and the stone wall was in ruins. I applied my heart to what I observed and learned a lesson from what I saw: A little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest—and poverty will come on you like a bandit and scarcity like an armed man (Prov. 24:30-34).

Paul stated this same principle in a more positive way, “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men” (Col. 3:23). Or again, “Whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows generously will also reap generously” (II Cor. 9:6).

In the same way that the faithful farmer works diligently to make his land productive, all the while trusting the Lord for the right circumstances, so we work diligently to be productive in every area of our lives. This principle is true in our efforts to seek a spouse. While we trust God’s providential guidance, we take all appropriate measures to prepare and place ourselves where we can meet a potential spouse. Our confidence must always be in the Lord who directs our lives (Prov. 3:5-6).

God’s providence is not an excuse for slovenly, untoward, or sluggardly behavior. Believers are called and exhorted to righteous living, reflecting the redemptive effects of grace in their lives. As the hardworking farmer works to cultivate his field, so believers who are single work hard to cultivate their relationships with others. And, as in any area of Christian living, they live and relate confidently knowing that the Lord will make his will known in and through the ordinary course of life.

He Has a Name

2007-05-16T08:59:00.000-06:00

Nic commented on my previous post:

You could argue that I should be out meeting someone new - I've tried that several times - but it's such hard work!

You're right, Nic, it is. And personally, while I appreciate the well-wishers who have come in the wake of my own latest relationship implosion, it would be helpful if they didn't say some of the very silly things that they have, in fact, said.

A sampling:

"Computers can't do what God can."
"Just brush him off and move on."
"He obviously wasn't worth it."
"You're so much better off without him."
"Just stop looking and wait on the Lord."
"You need to do what's right for you."
"On to the next one!"

This last statement I find especially offensive. I mean, seriously, can we dehumanize this situation, and this guy, any further? Saying "On to the next one!" is like telling a woman who has lost a child, "Well, you can always have more kids." Like they're a commodity...something easily replaced. Something lacking individual worth.

This guy is a real person. He has a face, a name, a job, a church home. I invested four months in getting to know him. He's smart and funny. I considered him a friend. Yet I had to sever that friendship. I had to! I'm not in this to gain more friends. Good grief, I can't keep up with the friends I have! So it's a loss, plain and simple. And it's a loss that I'll grieve.

Nic, I hear ya. It's tough. I feel silly enough admitting to folks that I'm in this online madness at all. But to have people insinuate I'm some kind of relational crack addict waiting for the next hit is especially painful. I'm doing what I can...and occasionally what I should. It's a process. And for now, I'm somewhere in the middle of it, muddling through.

We're Not Gonna Take It

2007-05-14T12:15:00.000-06:00

It’s over. Another four-month pseudo-relationship that began online…finished.

It began well. His contact and my reply. So far, so good. A few emails were exchanged, and then we got on the phone. Three months of phone calls and emails led to his three-day visit to Colorado. We had a good time. But the past month has been spent in me asking where we’re going from here, if anywhere, and getting no satisfactory answer. A week ago I called him and put it on the line. I said if this didn’t have a future, I needed to walk. And I did.

He didn’t come after me.

I still don’t know what his issues are. He wouldn’t tell me. All I know is that he didn’t end things, even though I gave him ample opportunity. He wanted to continue talking on the phone. He wanted to keep up the email banter. He just didn’t want to define anything. He wanted to “figure things out.” I asked a friend how long this would have gone on had I not ended it. His reply? “A year, two years…maybe more.” Yuck.

Guys, I’m mad at you. And I don’t like being mad. I’m not a bitter, angry single girl. I’m a fun person. And I realize that women have their share of dysfunction, too. Someone else can blog on that at his or her leisure.

But I’ve had it. I’m fed up with guys who are supposedly looking for a relationship that leads to marriage, but they don’t know how to get the job done. I'm more and more convinced that an untold number of Christian men are in this camp. They sign up for online services, mixers, speed dating events, singles groups – you name it – but when it comes to the nuts and bolts of practically pursuing marriage, they’re clueless. Or fearful. Or unrealistic. Or a combination thereof. Many of the men with whom I’ve spoken – and there’s been a legion – still operate within the “God will provide/I’ll just have a feeling/the Lord will point her out to me” framework. In the meantime, they’re getting older, odder and more removed from reality with each mouse click, movie night or 80s party. But they’re still there…ready for the next serial online relationship or opportunity to “hang out” indefinitely with whomever is available.

And where does this leave the women? Glad you asked. We’re not blameless. We’re wasting precious time being pen pals and buddies with these guys, keeping them company in their lackluster, accountability-and-friendship-free lives and entertaining them with witty chit-chat, companionship and connection in hopes of it becoming something "more." When will it become so? When we're neighbors in the nursing home? When we're established in the New Jerusalem? Face it: we’re enabling them. We're living in a perpetual church youth group, and no one is going off to college.

One of my best friends has been talking to a guy on eHarmony for three months. You heard right – three months. And yes…they are still on eHarmony. She offered to give him her phone number, but he ignored her suggestion. Yet she likes him, she’s invested in him, so she’s allowing this to continue. She maintains her subscription to stay in touch with him! I understand completely. I’ve been there. But basically, she is paying to email this guy. Does anyone else have a problem with this? She deserves so much better! She and I have been talking recently about the courage it will take for her to call it quits. To put her foot down. It will be hard. As my sister says, “It shouldn’t have to come to this.” But it has.

Ladies, in case you still don’t get it, these "relationships" are going N-O-W-H-E-R-E, and we need to realize this sooner. Maybe it’s time to organize the Million Single Woman March. Let’s start making the signs now. We need to stop the madness! Women, unite! And guys, if you're not "in it to win it," get off the dating sites. Get out of the mixers. Stop messing around. Those of you who are directional and intentional, keep it up...and help your friends, ok? Let's make this a group project.

As far as my story is concerned, there’s just an overwhelming sadness. The fact that this guy liked me and thought I was a great girl means nothing. He’s a good guy, but realistically, he may never get married, and if he does, he will probably settle on several fronts. I'm sad that he has high hopes, but is stuck and doesn’t know how to get out (cue U2’s “Stuck in a Moment” here). He wants a relationship that’s easy, convenient, familiar, and requires no cost or concession on his part. He wants it to just “work out,” and he has past patterns to prove it. I wish him the best. Truly. But more than that, I hope – and pray – that God will grab him and show him what’s what. I hope that an older, wiser Christian man will come into his life and give him the facts. I hope he’ll realize that moving toward marriage is more than just “seeing what happens.” I hope that someday he’ll have the opportunity to put this into practice.

I hope and pray this for all single Christian men. Until then, enough is enough. They won’t have access to me. They won’t get my emotional and intellectual capital. They won’t use up my time and energy. They won’t “figure things out” on my dime.

Consider it my part in making future marriages happen…one ultimatum at a time.

Mixer Photographs

2007-02-13T22:36:00.000-07:00

Rocky Mountain Christian Singles Mixer

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Thank you all for coming, praying and stepping out in faith.

Please keep checking back for more posts and updated information regarding our next event.

Can I Email Him?

2007-02-01T11:25:00.000-07:00

Dr. Dominic Aquila responds to a post-mixer question. If you have anything you'd like to ask Dr. Aquila, email it to us!

Q. What is good post-mixer etiquette? Some camps say, “Girls, contact those boys!” Others say, “Don’t you dare initiate!” What’s a Christian girl supposed to do? It was a mixer and the ladies were provided the men’s contact information; does that make initiating contact permissible?

A. The normal (shall we say, historic) etiquette in dating relationships is for the man to contact the woman. He is responsible to be the initiator, inviter and pursuer. Some may challenge this notion as being old fashioned and out of step with the spirit of our age, but it is still a strong tradition of our culture. Because this is an expectation, I would urge Christian single men to be more proactive in pursuing relationships with Christian single women.

Now an important caveat: Since the question is dealing specifically with the Christian singles mixer, I believe the normal rules can be relaxed a bit in this instance. There was an implied expectation in organizing this mixer that either the men or the women attending could make the initial contact. This is one reason the information packet was set up as it was. The men’s packet had the contact information for the women who attended, and the women’s packet had the contact information for the men who attended. One of the instructions given at the beginning of the mixer was just this: that men or women could initiate the first contact either in person or by e-mail.

The mixer was a means of just “getting to know you.” If that introductory meeting piqued interest, then one or the other, male or female, could make the next contact to possibly begin “getting to know more about you.” Under these guidelines I believe it would be appropriate for a woman who attended the mixer to initiate contact with a man she found interesting and would like to learn more about. The same would be true of a man who desired to learn more about a woman who was at the mixer.

In another post I had mentioned that the Lord uses means to make his will known. The mixer was one of those means, and a good number of singles took advantage of it. All of us are responsible to place ourselves in circumstances where God can direct us in every area of life, and this includes seeking a spouse. There is a praying/waiting component in seeking God’s will, and there is also an active seeking/being available component. Both are important for healthy Christian living.

We've only just begun...

2007-01-29T12:07:00.000-07:00

Well, the Rocky Mountain Christian Singles Mixer has come and gone. Sad, but true. Did everyone have a relatively painless experience? We hope so! Now that we've slept for more than two hours straight, the committee members would like to thank you all for a few things:

1) registering
2) actually showing up for the event
3) arriving sober
4) having an open mind and a willingness to give this whole thing a fair shake
5) participating with some overall ROCKIN' and hilarious responses during the speed dating portion
6) staying for the mixer
7) talking to people at the mixer
8) not destroying the chocolate fountain
9) not hitting on the married women/men
10) following up with people (we see that some of you are doing this already!)

We've only just begun. You need to start talking to us. Really, we want your feedback, so start commenting here! Boundless already blogged about the mixer this morning, and we'll continue to post right here countless ideas, stories, tips, you name it. Also be on the lookout for an evaluation to fill out with your impressions of the evening.

So who has the first story to tell? Is anyone married yet?!? Hehehe.

May the fun begin!

Tomorrow is the BIG Night!!!

2007-01-27T00:13:00.000-07:00

After countless hours of prayer, networking and advertising, we are excited to say that we are FULL!!!! It is going to be an incredible evening with some of the most incredible people in Colorado Springs...and beyond.

Check back next week for pictures, updates and stories!!! If you missed out on this opporunity, keep checking for information regarding future events. Also, be sure to email us about getting on an email list.

Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!! Please be in prayer for those attending and those running the event.

May God Be Glorified!!

The Rocky Mountain Christian Singles Mixer Committee

Talk about a cheap date?!

2007-01-20T21:51:00.000-07:00

Gentlemen,

Let's do a little math for a second.
For $25.00, you can get:
two movie passes for $15.50,
one large of salty, over-buttered and burnt popcorn $5.00,
one large watered-down soda with too much ice $4.00,
and 50 cents to loose in the bottom of the theater seat.

For one date...with one girl.

At the mixer, you will be able to spend a quality evening with 48 women...who want to meet and get to know you. What in the world could be better? Seriously.

We're famous!

2007-01-17T17:29:00.000-07:00

If you're a Colorado Springs resident, you may have heard our radio ad on KBIQ (102.7), KVUU (99.9) and KKML (AM 1300). Yeah, we're famous. Whatever...it's not like we're gonna get big heads over it. (Ooo, that reminds me...Mom, did you tape the ad like I told you?) In the meantime, we're having a lot of fun here in the posh RMCSM offices. Ok, we don't have offices. But that would be totally cool if we did.

On to the important news:

Ladies, you have come through. We currently have a WAITING LIST of women for the mixer. How insane is that? What's more, we can objectively say that the women who have applied are amazing. Why are you still single?!? Please tell us on the night of the event. We need to know.

Guys, you have some catching up to do. Finish up that knitted scarf this weekend so you're free on the 27th. If you haven't applied, do so. If you have, tell your friends! We reeeeeeeally want the numbers to be even at this event. Because God is a God of order. And it's only fair to the ladies.

For those of you who HAVE applied, tell us your greatest expectation for the mixer. Did you ever think you'd do something like this? What are you introverts thinking? We'd like to hear from more people besides just us. So drop us a comment!

Boundaries...Who Needs 'Em?

2007-01-12T11:44:00.000-07:00

A reader submitted the following question to Dr. Aquila. It's a good one! Dr. Aquila is President of New Geneva Seminary in Colorado Springs.

Q: I have trouble setting boundaries. I have realized this after attempt #2 has failed to have a relationship with my ex-boyfriend that results in wedded bliss. In the end, though some things improved, there was still the boundary problem. This is of course not how he saw it. From that I have a few questions. Is it true that men function so differently that they can not see how physical intimacy affects women? How can I as a Christian woman best explain this to a Christian man who seems to not get it? I need to be better at setting boundaries and keeping them. This has been an ongoing problem. It's not a problem when I am with a man who is well-disciplined in this area, but if I am with a man who is not, then it is a problem. What is your advice?

A: Your concern about boundaries is commendable. There are a number of reasons that professing believers struggle with boundaries, which is another way of saying wrestling with temptation. We must remember that we are sinners; redeemed, yes, but still sinners. Also, we live in a broken world (one of the consequences of the Fall) and this world's agenda is contrary to biblical norms. So here we are, redeemed sinners living in a fallen world, constantly being bombarded with ideas and images that tempt us. The ethic and behavior of our culture are focused on seeking one's own desires; it is definitely a "if it feels good, do it" mentality. So what are believers to do under these circumstances?

Our first obligation is always to Christ, which means that our attitude and actions should reflect the mind and heart of Christ. We are who we are because of God’s grace. God lovingly drew us to Christ and gave us the gift of eternal life. A genuine relationship was established with the living God.

God also changed us at the heart level. In other words, he didn't give us rules to change us; he didn't tell us to behave a certain way and then he would love and save us. God changes us from the inside (the heart) out (our behavior). What we believe informs and dictates how we behave. The truth deeply embedded in our hearts will affect how we view issues and live.

There are a number of helps that God has given believers to help us stand against the force and power of the world's system. (1) We have the Scriptures. Not only does God make his plan of salvation clear, he also gives specific direction to guide us in our lives (Psalm 119:105; Proverbs 3:5-6). (2) God has given us the Holy Spirit to lead us in the truth (John 16:13); we have real help from God's power source. (3) God has provided other believers to help us with issues, caring enough to hold us accountable (Galatians 5:1-5). And (4) We have the full armor of God with which we are able to fight against the devil's schemes (Ephesians 6:10-18). All of these provisions equip us to stand strong and prevail over the world seeking to squeeze us into its mold.

No matter what issues or temptations confront us, we remember that the Lord gave us new life by his grace. Now, if he gave us grace to begin the Christian life, he will continue to give us grace to live out the imperatives of the Christian life (Philippians 1:6). I like to put it this way: The God who gives grace is a moral God, so built into this grace is God's moral order that will direct our lives. Seen this way, we are liberated to honor God. Grace, indeed, is the foundation of our desire to follow God's moral principles in our lives.

With regard to your dating relationships, the principles stated above will guide you. You must have a clear sense of your boundaries ahead of time; you can't determine what they are in the midst of your dating relationships. With a strong biblical foundation, you live and relate confidently because you have a sure sense of ethical boundaries. You can be assured that God doesn't waffle on what is true; his ethical directives are the same for every generation.

The question of boundaries becomes, “Who sets the agenda for believers?” Is it the world with its selfish impulses or is it the Lord who has demonstrated his grace through Christ? As a professing believer you have been transformed by grace and are being conformed more and more to the image of your Savior. Knowing this is the best boundary you could ever have.

What's This Mixer All About?

2007-01-07T17:19:00.000-07:00

Are you relegating another year to the "Single and Hating It" file? Are you fearful that 2007 won't look much better? Don't.

There are reasons you're single, but we won't get into them here. This is not that kind of blog. What we WILL tell you is that one reason you're probably still single is that you're just not meeting enough people. Or the right kind of people. Or any people. Let's be honest, folks.

This is where we come in. A group of fun, savvy, well-connected yet amazingly still single individuals here in Colorado Springs is taking matters into its own hands. We're planning a mixer. Not a lame, church-basement, bring-a-bag-of-chips mixer, but a bona fide, classy, publicized, large-scale mixer. The kind you definitely want to attend.

It's called the Rocky Mountain Christian Singles Mixer. The date for this event is January 27, 2007, and it will be held at the Paragon Royal Ballroom in Colorado Springs.

What will it look like? Well, we're going to combine elements of speed dating and guided communication with a mixer vibe and an all-out party atmosphere. The goal is to get each attendee in front of about 50 members of the opposite sex within one evening. And not just any member of the opposite sex. We're talking about men and women who are successful, stable, fun, interesting and directional. You show up, and we'll do the rest. We're committed to a laid-back, all-inclusive, no-pressure environment that allows your personality to shine. We're even throwing a few married couples into the event to help facilitate conversation and give us all the impression that marriage can, for real, be a good thing.

So here's what you need to do: This mixer is for committed Christian singles between the ages of 25-40. We want to make this the best possible experience for everyone and ensure that the conditions are ideal for making some quality connections. Plus, space is limited. For this reason, each interested attendee must fill out an application. We need these IMMEDIATELY; the sooner you get yours in, the more likely you'll be accepted. We are already beginning to notify applicants of their acceptance, so don't be left out! The cost of the event (due upon acceptance) is $25.00. This will cover the event itself, plus food, live music, etc. Trust us, it will be worth it!

So why are you still reading this?!? CLICK HERE for an application today! We hope to see you there on the 27th. Start your new year right by making some new friends and possibly even meeting, well, you know...

Check back here periodically for updates and more fun information! If you have any questions, email us and we will answer your email promptly.

UPDATE 1.20.07: We currently have a waiting list for women. If you are a woman and interested in getting, at a later date, information on future events, please feel free to fill out an application.

Looking Pride in the Face

2007-01-07T16:54:00.000-07:00

I admit it. This type of event freaks me out. Has it really come to this? A Christian dating mixer? C'mon. Until I started to realize the feeling behind the feeling.

Was my hesitancy because of the event itself or was it deeper?

My conclusion? It was all about pride. My struggle was really with myself and my assumptions about how I should meet "the one" and how it should happen. It was supposed to be more organic, with a killer soundtrack in the background and a story that could be shared with the grandkids.

But I looked at this mixer and I got excited. It's truly all about allowing me an opportunity to interact with some incredible people. A chance to see that God's people are as unique and fabulous as His creativity and these people are open and humble enough to want the same thing. Connection and relationship.

Pride? Now I am feeling more honored than anything else. And really, whether I meet "the one", "the possibilities", or just a bunch of great new friends, it'll be time well spent.

Thanks!

Dr. Aquila Answers Your Questions on Singleness

2007-01-05T17:53:00.000-07:00

While we're waiting for this mixer to happen, we thought it would be good to get some biblical insights on singleness from an expert. Dr. Dominic Aquila is President of New Geneva Seminary in Colorado Springs and Interim Senior Pastor of Village Seven Presbyterian Church. He's smart, he's kind and he knows his stuff. And better yet, he cares about singles. So give him a listen as he tackles some of your toughest questions. Want to submit a question? Do so by emailing us. Read on!

1. Does being an older single mean that we might be called to singleness? Not necessarily. We need to begin this answer by stating a biblical principle: Our default setting as a result of creation is “to marry.” That, is, God created us to be in relationships at a number of levels, with the most significant one being the one man-one woman relationship in the context of marriage. When we read, “It is not good for the man to be alone…” (Gen. 2:18), we must understand that when God said this, Adam was the only human being created at that time.

Why was it not good for the man to be alone? The most basic reason was that Adam was created in God’s image and was to reflect it in every aspect of his existence. The God who made Adam in his image is a triune God; from all eternity God existed in and enjoyed a perfect relationship within himself as Father, Son and Holy Spirit. So for Adam to properly reflect being made in the image of God, he could not remain alone; he had to be in a relationship. If Adam remained alone he would have been a contradiction of God’s design. Now that other human beings have come into existence, we can read Gen. 2:18 this way: “It is not good for any person to be alone.”

From a biblical perspective, believers are to prepare themselves for marriage. God uses means to accomplish his ends. This preparation includes things like personal development (in every way: spiritually, emotionally, physically and relationally), trusting God’s providential leading, seeking opportunities to meet individuals of the opposite sex, and taking responsibility for developing and nurturing relationships.

God does call some believers to singleness for specific reasons and for a specific time (or even for a lifetime). But if God does call one to singleness, he gives “the gift” for singleness (I Cor. 7:7). That is, he quiets “the burn” (I Cor. 7:9) that is a natural part of our being created as human beings.

Christian singles, no matter what their age, should seek to marry unless they know that the Lord has called them to singleness and can articulate the purpose for which God has called them to be single.

2. Some feel as though this event is too contrived and that we are taking the control away from God. What do you think about this popular thought?

As I have stated already, God uses means to accomplish his purposeful ends. For example, God made us in such a way that we must eat to live. God also promises to take care of our basic needs. Does this mean that we do not have to work for what we eat? Or that God will plow the “back 40” for us? Of course not. God commands us to work for what we eat and work is one means by which he takes care of providing for our food. This principle holds true in our relationships: God has a plan for us, but he also uses means to direct us to that end. These means are God’s providential opportunities and we should take advantage of these providential openings. We need to recognize that if God is really sovereign (and he is) and if this means he is really in control (and he is), then we are incapable of taking control away from God. In fact, it could be argued that believers who are not using providential means are the ones who are taking control away from God because they are not availing themselves of God’s open doors. Believers are to entrust themselves into the hands of their faithful creator and he will direct their paths (Prov. 3:5-6; I Peter 4:19; 5:6-7).

3. There are many who are fearful of participating in this event; perhaps from possible rejection or the potential of no connection. How could they use this opportunity to benefit themselves?

Anytime we engage in any type of relationship, whether family, work, church, or friends, we open ourselves up to rejection and pain. The nature of living in a fallen world has already made us vulnerable. Also, if we allow fear to control us, we will be held captive and rendered incapable of entering into almost any relationship. Our confidence must be in the God who loved us demonstrably in Jesus Christ, who only intends good for us who are his children, and who, because of this perfect love, has cast out fear (I John 4:18). So here is an event that is another opportunity the Lord can use to grow us, have us meet people, and renew our confidence in his watchful care.

Guys, do NOT try this...

2007-01-03T10:43:00.000-07:00

Because I currently have a profile up on a couple of Christian dating sites, I'm entrenched in the online madness as much as the next person. (Not that I need to be online...I mean...I could date anyone I wanted, right?...I'm just doing it to support my friends in their search, etc. etc.) So anyway, I check my email this morning and have the following message from a guy in California:

"Hello, will you marry me and start a family with me?"

Um, ok...

While I appreciate intentionality as much as the next girl, this is just whack. Guys, please don't try this line on a girl...certainly not in your first conversation. (Second, maybe.) In fact, don't really "try" any lines unless you're Shakespeare, Keats or Ewan McGregor. Just be yourself. If you're normal, it'll show. If you're exceptional, even better.

I'll be at the mixer. Guys, I want to meet you. I need to meet you, as evidenced by my current online options (Exhibit A, above). Sign up today. I, um, thank you in advance.

Chemistry

2007-01-02T22:27:00.000-07:00

I am going to assume that even if you, personally, have never been on an online dating site, you have friends that are on or have tried it at least once. Perhaps you'll even agree with me that a huge hitch with those matchmaking sites is the important element of mutual chemistry. Be honest...the mysterious blend of spiritual and physical attraction between two people will make or break the relationship.

We think that the Rocky Mountain Christian Singles Mixer will be the way to meet and interact with other incredible and intentional Christians in real-time and face-to-face. It's the ultimate in social networking and because chemistry develops uniquely between two people, we are all on equal footing.

If this is your first time checking out the blog, read through the posts and be sure to fill out the mixer application

After the Holidays

2006-12-27T22:00:00.000-07:00

Thanks for checking out the Rocky Mountain Christian Singles Mixer!! Hopefully, the information on this blog has piqued your interest. The planning for this event is ramping up and the numbers are increasing daily. APPLY ALREADY!!

Who else just received the infamous end of year "SIGN UP BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE....FOR YOU" email from a certain online matchmaking mega machine? It made me chuckle and wince at the same time. This is why the Rockymtncsm event is so important. You can come and MEET other Christian people in Colorado Springs; others who are just as intentional as YOU.

We know you have questions. Who wouldn't?! This is ground-breaking, crazy and a major step of faith for each of you. EMAIL US!! Ask us anything and expect an answer back.

Over the next couple of weeks, we will be posting more information on how the evening will be set up, so save us in your favorites, subscribe to this blog or leave us up 24/7. Trust us, by the end of January, we'll be the best of friends.

OK for Introverts!!

2006-12-18T10:06:00.000-07:00

Wow, if you've read the comment trail at BoundlessLine, you'll see that people are all worked up about this mixer! Something to clarify: the "speed dating" portion of the mixer (and really, we hate to call it that, but whatever), is going to be VERY low-key. Unlike the 1:1 format employed by most secular, anything-goes events, ours will actually be more of a group approach. Six singles and one married couple per table. The marrieds will faciliate discussion to ensure that the extroverts don't take over. Really, it's THAT casual, yet also guaranteed to have some healthy structure. So honestly, just show up and we'll do the rest. We want you to have fun...honest! Still concerned? Tell us why!!!???!!!

The Excitement is Building (but the deadline is approaching!)

2006-12-14T11:10:00.000-07:00

Plans for January's mixer are humming along nicely. The venue is almost set, the band is booked, the food is selected, married couples are coming on board as we speak (all of them saying, "Hey, it's about time something like this happened!").

The only thing missing is YOU! So don't mess around and get lost in the fury of the Christmas season. Go to our application and fill it out today!

Boundless Line, Focus on the Family's blog for singles, blogged on the mixer today...check it out!

More details are coming...contact us with any questions!

The Best Thing Since Arranged Marriages

2006-11-21T12:11:00.000-07:00

ROCKY MOUNTAIN CHRISTIAN SINGLES MIXER

Are you spending Christmas 2006 alone? Are you relegating another year to the "Single and Hating It" file? Are you fearful that 2007 won't look much better? Don't.

There are reasons you're single, but we won't get into them here. This is not that kind of blog. What we WILL tell you is that one reason you're probably still single is that you're just not meeting enough people. Or the right kind of people. Or any people. Let's be honest, folks.

This is where we come in. A group of fun, savvy, well-connected yet amazingly still single individuals here in Colorado Springs is taking matters into its own hands. We're planning a mixer. Not a lame, church-basement, bring-a-bag-of-chips mixer, but a bona fide, classy, publicized, large-scale mixer. The kind you definitely want to attend.

It's called the Rocky Mountain Christian Singles Mixer. The date for this event is January 27, 2007. More details as to time, location, etc. will be coming in future posts.

What will it look like? Well, we're going to combine elements of speed dating and guided communication with a mixer vibe and an all-out party atmosphere. The goal is to get each attendee in front of about 50 members of the opposite sex within one evening. And not just any member of the opposite sex. We're talking about men and women who are successful, stable, fun, interesting and directional. You show up, and we'll do the rest. We're committed to a laid-back, all-inclusive, no-pressure environment that allows your personality to shine. We're even throwing a few married couples into the event to help facilitate conversation and give us all the impression that marriage can, for real, be a good thing.

So here's what you need to do: This mixer is for committed Christian singles between the ages of 25-40. We want to make this the best possible experience for everyone and ensure that the conditions are ideal for making some quality connections. Plus, space is limited. For this reason, each interested attendee must fill out an application. After we've received all applications, we will select 48 men and 48 women to attend the event. Simple as that. The cost of the event (due upon acceptance) is $25.00. This will cover the event itself, plus food, live music, etc. Trust us, it will be worth it!

So why are you still reading this?!? CLICK HERE for an application today! We hope to see you there in January. Start your new year right by making some new friends and possibly even meeting, well, you know...

Check back here periodically for updates and more fun information! If you have any questions, email rockymtncsm@hotmail.com and we will answer your email promptly.